Do you know someone who is selfish? Do you need to look in the mirror too? We are all selfish but let’s change that.



*Just as a side note, I do not have any research to back my opinion nor is this an opinion based on facts. These are merely my views and opinions of how I have seen the world.

As a young adult, I have unfortunately observed what I view as the true nature of most individuals regardless of age, race, sex, etc. It comes down to a majority of individuals being inherently selfish and self-absorbed (probably the same meaning- who cares). It is honestly a scary thing to see how people will put others needs aside just to get further ahead in life. For the most part, this ambition is aimless with absolutely no life goals for the future. So, what is the point? Why do you need to be so selfish if you have no end goal to reach?

*Side note: Yet, the funny part of it all is that most young adults favor socialism as the primary form of government, but a socialist form of government does not favor the individual. They honestly probably favor this regime for the pure fact that it is not the current administration, so they are “fighting the man.”

With social media like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat, people are now able to validate their opinions by having someone else like, comment, or share this idea. And this probably has a lot to do with the selfish syndrome that has penetrated the minds of so many individuals. We have this stigma now that my opinion matters because social media says so. But where does this opinion go? Nowhere. It stays trapped with the same people who feel the same way and only allows the initial instigator to feel special. Social media has become a diary for individuals to give their problems to the world to fix or judge. Social media isn’t the only cause for selfishness but it could be a huge factor.

Everything in our society is about how YOU can get ahead in life and it forms jealousy. People will stab you in the back just to get the better grade, the best position at work, or to get the guy/girl. We constantly take and take but never give back. When was the last time you looked at someone and were genuinely concerned about their day? Everything is so superficial now. It is all about politics, sex, drugs, foreign affairs, and what was the latest Trump tweet. Nothing is substantial anymore. No one tries to have deep and meaningful conversations because deep down, they don’t care. They don’t want to know why you are sad or upset. Honestly, when you vent to someone, most of the time they turn the situation to be about them. How can you get sensible relief or feel better about yourself when everyone you talk to doesn’t seem to care?

Think about your status updates. Are they really to share to the world? Or are they measures that allow you to feel better about yourself? A good question to ask yourself is “Why am I doing this?” I don’t think enough people do this often. We go to college for what? Why are you majoring in that field? We live in a world where no one seems to know what to do or how to do it, so we look for pity. But if you want change, you need to set goals for yourself. It is scary to have a game plan for the future but if you have nothing for the future, then there isn’t much to do in the present. We are so consumed with our present life that we are honestly too selfish to look toward the future.

People scream for change but they are too lazy and self-absorbed to care. The problem is that change is gradual. You can’t just flip a switch and have everything the way you want it. Life isn’t a virtual reality video-game. If you want something done, you do it with the help of others. Instead of being so enveloped in your own life, try to spend some time with another and actually listen to their problems. Put your pride away and have a stimulating conversation.

In the end, it will be the people you left behind who remember you. So, make sure that they remember someone great and kind. Not a selfish prat who would step on everyone to get what they think they want.